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Common interests

Board games, Camping/Outdoors, Cooking, Current events, Dining out, Exercising, Gardening/Landscaping, Hobbies & crafts, Islamic activities, Museums & art, Music, Performing arts, Playing sports, Political interests, Reading books, Tea/Coffee & conversation, Technology/Gadgets, Travel/Sightseeing, Volunteering,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  

Religious practice

I am a deeply religious person. I pray each prayer on time, read Qur'an, read the Dua of Ahlul Bayt (AS), engage in dhikr (remembrance of Allah), and have a deep relationship with Allah. Worship is not limited to Salaat for me - it is the beginning, with the end being the attention of my heart, every intention, and every act, morning till night, by Allah's granting success. I also delve deep into Irfan (ma'rifah - spirituality / gnosis), spiritual exploring, meditation, yoga, and martial arts for balance and focus. I enjoy reason, rational arguments, and philosophy, but as I grow older and wiser, I enjoy open dialogue and search for truth of connecting hearts over debates of battling minds. There is no joy in fighting. We cannot invite (do da'wah) by attacking another as an enemy, but by kindly inviting as a friend. This must be a work of love, not hate. Engaging conversation with friends, family, and hopefully, my wife, allows exploration of the depths of gratitude for Allah's bounty upon us, and consolation and mindfulness of Allah's great mercy upon us, in joyful times and struggles. This may sound tedious and dry to some, but I am most definitely a fun loving person. The joys and enjoyment in life I experience through both traditionally religious acts and the multitude of recreation I enjoy are immense, and I'm looking forward to experiencing and sharing joys with a life partner.

My partner preferences

What I Am Looking For I believe everything in creation sings and dances in praise of Allah, and I look for a partner to share in His joy and blessings. I seek someone who enjoys the outdoors, an active lifestyle, and who can be serious as well as have fun. There is so much halal fun; I seek a partner to share blessed pleasures with. I would be remiss if I did not mention my past relationship. I was married for 8 years. After diligent efforts, we realized we were not compatible with each other and could not continue together. We peacefully parted ways. I do my best to never speak ill of my ex-wife; it neither serves her honor nor benefits me to speak ill of another person behind their back. We had children. When we separated, she took our children back to Louisiana, her home state. My kids are more than 1,000 miles from me, and I only get to see them in person once or twice a year. It breaks my heart, but I have come to the understanding that two separated, loving parents are better than two miserable, together parents. I Skype call my kids weekly or whenever I am allowed; not nearly enough, but the utmost I can. I provide for my kids because a father's responsibility to his kids doesn't end when a marriage does. I hope to find a partner who recognizes and appreciates that. What I've learned most from my previous relationship is that it takes daily commitment to joy and happiness to make a relationship work, and the internal strength to do the work. I realize not everyone has this, and it is up to the two people to come to an understanding of the potential of their own selves and the other person. Just talking and having good ideas isn't enough - it requires lived action. I'm looking for a partner who has the character and emotional wholeness to support a loving relationship. Who knows who she is, the worthiness of her soul, what she's doing, where she's going, and what is worth her striving to find, keep, and maintain. A relationship is work, and it requires two people committed to joy. And that joy is not something we do for the other person. I can't make you happy and you can't make me happy. We must be happy separately, and come together to share that happiness and help it flourish. Praying for your success in all your endeavors, whether we connect or not.

More about me

A Little Bit About Me I enjoy life, remembering Allah and His bounty on us, and connecting with kindred souls who love knowing and connecting with Allah. I love to ponder and reflect, and I enjoy hearing Allah's music - the singing of the birds, the waves of the ocean, and the rustling of Autumn leaves. I believe Allah created us to dwell with one another and enjoy each other's company. I believe music of many kinds soothes the soul and brings light to the eyes. I am a quintessentially joyful soul. The clouds and gloom fade in and fade out, but the sun shines through each rainy, stormy day. There is always something to be thankful for - my goal each and every day is to find and embrace them all. Part of what helps me stay balanced is connecting with nature. Boston has immense natural beauty (yes, even in the winter), and reconnecting with it renews my soul. Another thing that helps is meditation, yoga, exercise, and martial arts - balancing discipline of the body, mind, and spirit. Prayer to God helps enlighten my soul and bring joy to my lips. Music and dance are among my strongest happy practices. I believe the birds sing in ecstasy, and we humans can benefit from singing and dancing with joy and thankfulness. I also enjoy cooking and experiencing good food. Good food from all countries and regions brings people together, and is a celebration of diversity and the many good things available and shared between cultures. I believe in wholesome pleasures, and I believe there is such a thing as good, clean fun. This, to me, is the most fulfilling of all pleasures. When troubles arise, and they always do, remembering Allah and treating each other as Allah treats us - with kindness, forgiveness, and understanding - allows peace and tranquility to flourish in marriage, families, and communities. I work for a community development corporation as Director of Systems and Data Management, where I use technology to measure the impact of our work and ensure we can show the world the achievements we contribute. I also coach fellow directors to learn to love and get excited about data and how it helps them in a practical way to get things done.

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